Feeling down in the dumps after a breakup is natural. But you need to know the difference between feeling down and knowing when something is terribly wrong. The fact of the matter is that you may need professional help. This may sound like a bad thing, but it can actually work in your favor. As you can imagine, professional help can help you beat your problem and hopefully get your life back on track sooner rather than later.
Here are a few tell-tale signs that you need to seek professional help:
- You have been depressed and keeping to yourself for weeks on end.
There is nothing wrong with feeling down, but if you are not leaving home and don’t want to see anybody you may need to seek professional assistance. - You are not eating as much as you should.
This is a sign that you need professional help. Your body needs food to survive even if you are depressed. If you continue to avoid food you are going to cause more problems for yourself, both psychologically and physically. - Contemplating suicide is beyond serious, and is something that needs to be dealt with by a professional.
If suicidal thoughts are creeping into your mind make an appointment with a professional without delay.
Again, it is natural to feel bad for yourself after a breakup. This is never fun, but you should realize that it is a process that you will go through. It is important that you know the difference between what is natural and when you need to seek professional help. If you feel that your situation is getting worse and that you are heading for disaster, speaking with a professional is the way to go. This way you will have somebody to talk to, as well as a qualified professional who can give advice on how to fix the problem at hand.
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May 13th, 2009 at 6:36 pm
PS My therapist specializes in Sex Therapy. If you feel that you have “issues” around sex (as hard as that may be to accept) a Sex Therapist can work wonders.
May 13th, 2009 at 6:37 pm
You are completely right. I have been through a terrible ordeal over the past 9 months due to my failure to recognize some deeply-seated emotional issues in my relationships. This failure lead to the break up of a 4 1/2 year relationship, which was the best, and longest, of my life. And it was all my fault.
My best advice is for each party in a relationship to look critically at themselves, as well as their partner(s). No one is perfect, but owning up to one’s own baggage is perhaps the most important, and sometimes the most difficult, part of being in a relationship. I have come to realize that I was laying my baggage out for everyone else to deal with (friends and lovers alike), but the truth is that it’s no one’s responsibility but my own. And until I do deal with it, I can’t truly and respectfully love myself, much less anyone else.
Individuals seeking help have many options including therapists and support groups that have meetings all over the world. Again, no one is perfect, but that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t strive to be strong, compassionate and honest. Don’t give up!!!
Some valuable resources:
http://www.codependents.org/
http://www.slaafws.org/
http://www.sexaa.org/
May 13th, 2009 at 6:38 pm
This was my first comment but it didn’t submit for some reason:
You are completely right. I have been through a terrible ordeal over the past 9 months due to my failure to recognize some deeply-seated emotional issues in my relationships. This failure lead to the break up of a 4 1/2 year relationship, which was the best, and longest, of my life. And it was all my fault.
My best advice is for each party in a relationship to look critically at themselves, as well as their partner(s). No one is perfect, but owning up to one’s own baggage is perhaps the most important, and sometimes the most difficult, part of being in a relationship. I have come to realize that I was laying my baggage out for everyone else to deal with (friends and lovers alike), but the truth is that it’s no one’s responsibility but my own. And until I do deal with it, I can’t truly and respectfully love myself, much less anyone else.
Individuals seeking help have many options including therapists and support groups that have meetings all over the world. Again, no one is perfect, but that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t strive to be strong, compassionate and honest. Don’t give up!!!